

Benjamin helped me discover the reason. It is because they are fleeing from the inside of the Church in which they don't belong. Huh! Such simplicity!
My heart is failing me. I have just finished reading postings on the internet for and against the Emerging Church in the western world. I myself find myself keenly identifying with the emerging ideals. It is a clear identification, something that helps me to navigate through a world that doesn't accept me because of my beliefs, the way I spend my money and Sunday mornings. To some of us that is quite a reach. There is too much banter and cutting words being passed to the emerging thoughts and ideals. Both sides are saying good things but they sound just like I did when I was a teenager and my father and I were not understanding each other. I love my father, always have, always will, but we don't always understand each other. That never takes precedent over his overwhelming love and protection for me. I know he would die for me, stand up for me even when I'm wrong and take my side against any enemy of strength, reputation or popularity. I utterly trust him with every ounce of my being and revere him. I need him. He is my umbrella, my home and with him I am safer than with any other in my life right now. I am known and still accepted. I need him. I can go home anytime and will be received no matter my condition.
There have been times when he has hurt me, because he has the ability to more than most. When my hair didn't match up to his preference, my music wasn't really music, my clothing was ridiculous, the things that my small world found great significance in because I didn't know the foundations that really define life as you grow older. I didn't know that fads were passing, I didn't know that what was important at the end of the day for him; bills, mortgages, sickness, cold weather, fear of failure, etc... were hemming him into a world that I wouldn't know or understand until later. I am beginning to understand and I feel like I am at a transition point between being a small world teenager to someday having a family and seeing life through its realistic aging eyes, eyes that understand consequences in a much deeper sense.
I feel the same about these arguments between traditional and emerging generations. They need fathers who love and accept and shepherd this emerging generation of young and misunderstood evangelicals through the maze of what is real and what isn't and in the process is open to learning something new. We don't need you to sit in your easychair that you're still paying for behind your daily dose of reality and peer past it to tell us how ridiculous our new hair color is or how you could've ripped that hole in our jeans for us instead of us paying somebody else to do it. We need fathers, real spiritual fathers, to lead us, to guide us, to listen to us muse, even if we are wrong. The danger is that if you don't, you, being the bigger man, lose the precedent that God has given to you by default to lead, encourage, mentor, teach and affect for eternity somebody that will outlive you. We need fathers who will love us, give us affirmation, be gentle with us in these difficult early years. It isn't anymore easier for a teenager to be a teenager than it is for an adult to be an adult. You should be happy we're even coming to Church, why scold us for how we do it. There is no bad guy in this; just ask a father who's son has left the Church and how he wishes he could take back some things he said. We need fathers. If you can't listen, if you can't live above the milieu of our self-discovery and you can't be patient, and you can't learn, then I feel like asking you to just please leave us alone, but that's not the answer either. What is? Well why not putting down the paper, getting out of your easy chair, coming to our room and knocking on the door and asking to come in. Please don't say anything about the mess, sit down and just start asking us what we think. We're family.
Philippians 2:1-5 "If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Jesus Christ: ..."
ps - these thoughts are general and do not reflect a personal summation of my father and I's relationship. I love him deeply and we are good friends and he has been a good father my whole life.
Here are some links,
http://www.9marks.org/partner/Article_Display_Page/0,,PTID314526CHID598014CIID2249672,00.html
http://tallskinnykiwi.typepad.com/tallskinnykiwi/2005/04/an_open_blog_po.html
4. Anguish. It is a high calling. If you want to be invited into the heart of God, right into the center, embrace anguish. Don’t believe the enemy of our souls when he tells you to protect your heart from hurt, from pain, when he tells you not to care and to transcend the circumstances. You don’t need to look for pain, it will come, but when it does don’t hide from it, let it do what it is supposed to do. God endures pain all day, it’s like a full-time job to Him. If God were to talk about what He did all day, like most of us do after work, I’m sure He would share from the deep anguish of His heart (although not only). I shiver to think what would happen if God disconnected from the pain that we cause Him and decided to care less about us or not at all.
Anguish is a stewardship and I personally find it very easy to not be a faithful steward of pain. It is a part of life – we have to accept it and the more that we give ourselves to loving others truly with the love of God, the more painful life will become. C.S. Lewis has said, “The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.” So if you want to know God, know anguish and let it steep you in His love. Many are looking to replace anguish with happiness but only true joy comes in the midst of Anguish. George often quotes Billy Graham by saying, “Life at its best is filled with sorrow.” Many have experienced this and know it, a
nd yet more are trying to escape it and as a result they are missing the blessings that their hearts so long for. The very actions that we make to reduce pain and suffering are the same actions that are stealing from us the very thing we desire from those actions.
5. Complexity. The world will always be more complex than we want it to be. Embrace complexity, don’t look for the black and white so quickly. Expect that there is more to the story than what is reported or what meets the eye. Stop looking for the singular bad guy and look to your own sinfulness to tell you who is at fault – it may not be you, but you’ll at least be looking at the same thing that God is looking at, in each of us. There are always two sides to any st
ory and in my experience from travelling the world, the media truly doesn't give us what we need to hear - the full truth - they tend to give selective truth. I hope to never be a media basher because they give us so much to pray for but our view of reality should not be solely influenced by the media - that is our job and it is not easy to keep up with - but it is our steward
ship with all the access to information that we have. We are called to live in the practical of Proverbs, the singing of the Psalms, justice of Job, and the collision and confusion of Ecclesiastes. Wisdom seeks balance of them all and doesn't raise one over the other. It embraces the tension of meaningful and meaningless, of veracity and vanity. It’s really a complex subject so I’ll just move on.
6. Lightheartedness. Look for lightness. In such complexity, longsuffering, hard work, pain and stress there is a need to just let it go at times and escape. This being true, we are not called to look for Heaven on earth, but to bring Heave to earth. I struggle between trying to experience a life without sorrow and a life engaged with sorrow. It is true that in Heaven there will be no more tears, no more crying – pain will cease. Now is the time for pain – it will never happen again, so let’s embrace it before it is gone, it is our last chance to step into what God is doing 24/7. So even though I wrongly look for a complete release from pain and hard work and from being responsible to the growing needs of our broken world, it isn’t wrong to seek the place of solace,
humor, laughter and laid back nothingness on a regular basis. But only to be viewed as fuel for the race ahead and not as the final destination- that is replacing Heaven and is an escapist mentality. Many work all year for their 2 to 3 to 4 weeks of vacation to go and do something special or they are waiting for retirement to not have to work anymore. Many make great sacrifices for this kind of lifestyle, but it is completely backwards. Laughter, rest, doing nothing, practicing a hobby is necessary to make it through life, but it is not the point of life. George just came back from Disney France with his grand children and from riding as many roller coasters as he possible could (one he rode 4 times straight) and this all at the age of 67. We need fun, laughter and relaxation but remember what its purpose is; it is not the purpose. A long-haul, long-term, entire life view of living for Jesus is what is required and therefore we need rest in order to make it. It needs to be regular, consistent and focused on rest. This can then give us the fuel for the second greatest commandment, to love others as we love ourselves. One cannot give what one has not first received. Sometimes we are required to arrange for the receiving. This all feeds into the greatest commandment as we steward our body and our time for Christ. Love the Lord your God with all you heart, mind, soul and strength. So take it easy once in awhile. This also requires us to discern the voice of God apart from the voice of our own sinful nature and from the devil’s voice and from the world system (which is completely antithetical to grace). Many times, God is saying rest and the rest of the crowd is saying work harder, longer and never feel like you’ve done enough and then suffer from the guilt until you start working again. This is an on-going battle and the balance is difficult. Work hard at resting right and hearing right.
7. Jesus. He is central, the focus, where all eyes should be centered and where all hearts can rest. I don’t know the depth of this but I am finding it more and more as I read the Scriptures and experience so many different cultures. Making Christ central is a must but to be honest, I’m not sure I understand that at the level that it is spoken of in Scripture. I know that I could come up with a lot of things to say and write but I am at a place where it is a principal that I believe and that I only feel like I’ve recently begun to grasp it on the level that I am being asked to grasp it at. Jesus has always been my Sunday School answer. An 8 year old who exclaims that they love Jesus is thinking much different (yet not so different) things than a 98 year old is thinking when he says the same thing. I guess that is where the pilgrimage never ends. Right now I know that Jesus is the center and in my life I feel like I am on the edge of the forest with the enormity of what that actually entails. Once the disciples grasped it, they turned their world upside down for Jesus and were all killed on account of his name. I don’t want to die, but if I could be killed for Jesus that would be incredible. For now I’ll just die daily as best as I know how and pick up my cross. Jesus wants to bless us with his intimacy and his presence I know, but as George has said, “The blessing without the cross only results in chaos.” We are called to many things in Christ, to many places for Christ and too much suffering on behalf of Christ but at the end of the day the 8 year old and the 98 year old are simply called to Christ. So after 7 points I have to ask the question again, “Where will our dreams lead us?” – I believe no more than ever they lead us to Christ who holds the supremacy over all Creation, sits at the right hand of God and carries our burdens and gathers our sorrows and asks us to only join Him in making His Daddy look good.